That's awesome!!! It's always so encouraging to hear success stories! Congrats!!!posted @ Thursday, May 19, 2011 - 23:38
@RamblingDragon: Oh yeah, that's VERY true! Makes for a much more interesting fishing trip too! LOLposted @ Thursday, March 17, 2011 - 13:09
@RamblingDragon: Thank you! At least now I'll stop picturing people fishing! LOLposted @ Thursday, March 17, 2011 - 12:49
@RamblingDragon: I'm a complete idiot....(there, I admitted it! LOL)....what is "trolling"?? I'm completely embarrassed to even ask.... : but if I don't ask, I'll never know!posted @ Thursday, March 17, 2011 - 12:34
@artemis4951: Thank you. I'm very sorry to hear about your boyfriend's father. From what I've experienced throughout all of this, I have seen that guys typically seem to go through a longer grieving period - society seems to think that men shouldn't show emotions like women, therefore they seem to suppress the grief which just drags it out and makes it much more difficult in the end. My son is one of "those guys" who tries to be "macho" about it all and say "nothing's wrong" and refuses to show any sadness really. He just tends to bury his head in the sand.
Thank you, again, for your kindness.posted @ Thursday, March 17, 2011 - 12:31
@NavyVet: First, thank you very much for your sacrifice and service to our country! My dad is a Navy Veteran as well Second, thank you so much for the suggestions. I will begin looking into these options tomorrow. I know my son gets frustrated with the VA hospital and the VA office here - their latest thing is that they stopped his disability checks and, first, they told him that it had to do with his address change when he moved back in with me. They said they'd have to basically start all over with approving his benefits. Then they sent him a letter saying that he owed THEM money. When he called, they told him it was because he's been in jail since Sept. 08. He applied and got approved AFTER that time and, of course, had to go down to their offices to go through everything. Now, they STILL haven't figured it all out and he hasn't gotten benefits since August 2010. I've refrained from even attempting to handle it all, because I'm sure they won't talk to me - they have to do everything directly with him.
Thanks again, so very much, for your help!posted @ Thursday, March 17, 2011 - 00:17
We say things like, "I'm not sure these fit right" or "think there's enough room in the stride?"
And Speedo trunks only belong on people who can swim fast enough to need them.
That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
Thanks for the translating! I've heard "think there's enough room in the stride" my whole life and never knew what that really meant! LOL
And, I agree about the speedos....but, I'll add that I have not met anyone on a public beach or pool that I felt could swim fast enough!posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 22:37
@Andrea Griffith: Ooops....yes ma'am! We will behave, I promise!posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 22:31
[quote][b]dinodungdan[/b] - @racingbrat58f: My condolences on your husband's death....
Thank you very much. That was very sweet of you. It's been a tough road, but it's coming up on 4 years next week....I miss him, terribly, of course, but I am learning how to have fun again finally, and be myself once again. The kids are doing much better and it still brings me happy tears when I hear them laughing and being happy. I've learned what life is really about....helping others and being happy. Thanks again!posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 22:29
@theold33: I really feel sorry for you. I don't know you, but I have read enough just today, alone, to form my own opinion (which I shall keep to myself). I get the feeling that everyone else has experienced the mean-spirited tone which with your posts/rants are saturated and have appropriately chosen "sides" based on their own views and opinions.
Interestingly enough, you have chosen to tell me how it's going to be with your recent comment. I assume you're going to give the "help" to my son and that's how you are so certain that "everything is great"??
Another thing...Avenger won't remain "blind", as you call him. He's not blind at all....he's simply choosing not to see things the same way as others do. He is flexible enough to hold an intelligent conversation and even a debate. This is a trait that allows us all to "get along". You, however, are going to have a much harder time with your head shoved so far up your......that you cannot even remove it yourself. Good luck with that. Try being nicer to people. And don't call women "old bats". That's not nice.posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 16:06
[quote][b]avenger[/b] - @racingbrat58f: I'm really sorry you have to put up with theold, He's a rabid conservative that's always on the prowl about the evils of liberalism. And he really doesn't like me or my views, so I'm afraid I put you in the middle of his cross hairs.
Oh don't be....I don't mind! He apparently doesn't like me either. I haven't gotten to my almost-40th birthday by being quiet or pleasing everyone all the time. Where would the fun be in that?? I've never labeled, or been labeled, conservative, liberal, or whatever else.....I'm gonna have to see what I am. I really don't like Cosmo, but is there a quiz for this sort of thing?? kidding! sort of anyway....I have the winking emoticon there...see? LOLposted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 15:56
@Anonymous Dude: Smart answer!posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 15:51
@avenger: Thank you very much!!! I didn't post anything about my son as a cry for help, so to speak, but as the postings went on it did turn that way. You are correct. I've tried to get him to see someone and he gets so frustrated with the VA that he won't do it. He's on disability, through the VA, already and he has a temper now (that he never had before) and absolutely zero patience. I will certainly try and find an organization that maybe can help. Everything I've found, so far, has required some sort of initiative, on my son's part, and then dealing with the VA.
If you ever come across anything please let me know. By the way, we are in the Atlanta area. Thanks again!!posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 15:45
[quote][b]theold33[/b] - @avenger:
You views are like a blind man stumbling around in the dark.It will always be the same for you.At least i can always turn the flashlight in a different direction.Just not ever in your direction.
This is ridiculous!
Avenger didn't cause me to "turn on my son". Go back and read the posts. Never did I feel I had any reason to defend my son, because Avenger didn't say anything like that.
Your response in this particular post really reminds me of elementary school...."I'm rubber, you're glue....whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you".
Speaking of elementary school.....can't we just play red rover? or work out some frustration with a little dodgeball?? Can't we all just get along??posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 15:40
[quote][b]theold33[/b] - @racingbrat58f:
I'm not saying you should defend him when he's wrong.But you should do that in private.You shouldn't do that on these sites.But,that's just me.
I'm still trying to figure out where I even criticized him....the two incidents I found were related to other context. I can see if one removed them from context where they would lend to a more critical type of attitude.
Second, I respect your opinion but that is just what it is....your opinion. While I appreciate your concern regarding my abilities as a mother, I will thank you kindly to move along. Your opinions and advice have been noted, thank you.posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 15:33
@theold33: I am not going to pretend that my child is "right" or without fault just because he's my son. I didn't criticize my son as a rebuttal to anyone criticizing me. My son is actually very smart, and I am proud of HIM and I love HIM, but I'm not going to pretend that he's a stand-up guy for being insensitive. If I did that, then I would be enabling a behavior that I do not agree with, nor do I support.
"Regardless of what he said"??? Really? That's crazy. I'm not going to defend
him just because he's my son. If he's wrong, he's wrong. He's an adult.
I have always made my kids be accountable and take responsibility for things they've done - good and bad. Therefore, if he says something that is idiotic, I'm not going to pretend it's brilliant. Then I would look like an idiot too.....posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 15:11
@RamblingDragon: Thank you! I definitely will admit I was wrong (tell my kids and you'll be handed over to the Robot guy! LOL) and I always move forward. There's no point in hiding behind excuses or blaming others. I find much more enjoyment in learning from my mistakes and, sometimes, just stupidity and, other times just lashing out...sigh...(ok, ok, I have faults) and I do laugh at myself (it's kinda in a robot type voice, but don't let that scare you).
If I get home today and my son tells me he's landed a job with Beck.....I can't believe you'd jinx me like that! smh.... oh yeah, I forgot you wink emoted....nevermind - you didn't jinx me LOLposted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 14:56
@Willow: Thank you so much for your words! He actually came home 2 weeks before his unit deployed. It was all very weird. He spent six years wanting to go in the Army. My husband and I signed for him in December 2006, but he had to finish high school first, and he was behind in his credits. So he worked hard to get everything done to graduate in 2007. Well, my husband was killed in a car accident in March 2007 - my son graduated a month later and left for Basic a month after that.
Everything seemed fine (or at least as much as they could be) for awhile. His dad being gone didn't hit him until much later and I think that was the start of the problem. He had PTSD from that, alone. But then his unit went on a training mission and, when they returned to Alaska (where he was stationed after Basic), is when all the problems started. He asked to be transferred twice - to anywhere. They wouldn't.
In 18 years, my son had never been in a fight, but was telling me about fights all the time that he couldn't get away from. You can't go tell a "teacher" anymore and mom can't take care of it for you. He wanted out of the unit - he said he couldn't go to Iraq with people who weren't going to have his "back". He hurt back really bad while on a mission and was in the hospital repeatedly as well. The fighting didn't help. There are some things he just won't talk to me about. My husband was in the Army, as well, and he had the same type of reaction when talking about Desert Storm. I am convinced that something happened to my son while in there, but he won't tell me and he wont' go see a doctor or counselor. Says he's "fine". But, as his mom, he's definitely NOT!!posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 14:48
@avenger: I also apologize. I was trying to in a condensed format. My son's real-time, long version, argument was asinine, at best. He posted his "research" on my facebook and said "Can you say, payback's a b*tch?", to which I replied "Can you say 'Mom, I'm an idiot and your foot is up my....?'" This is how it usually goes. I was impressed that he actually researched the information and his findings were ironic. But, he's young and still has a lot to learn about compassion. Definitely. He seriously used to be compassionate, but not anymore. Again, I apologize, I read, edited, and re-read my post, before I posted it, and I wasn't completely happy with it, but I thought maybe it was just me. Text leaves a lot to be desired when it comes to emphasis and emotion of course, and I am truly sorry that I offended you or anyone else. That certainly was not my intent.posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 14:36
@artemis4951: I agree. I do believe in God, but I think that a lot of Christians hide behind blaming God, instead of taking responsibility for their own actions that has caused a negative reaction in their own lives. I respect your personal views concerning God, and I was raised as the "Preacher's daughter" (probably explains a lot to a lot of my friends!). I was taught that God gave us all "free will" and, therefore, we cause issues for ourselves. It seems that a lot of people tend to conveniently forget that part in the Bible. I have heard so many people say "it was God's will for (insert tragedy here) to happen." While I think that a lot of things happen for a reason, I do not think that God brings tragedy to people just for a "lesson" or because of an assignment. I think people bring a lot on themselves and, unfortunately, innocent ones do get hurt at times.
However, it all comes down to character. When something happens in life, it's how a person handles the situation that counts. Whether it's because of God helping them through or because of the person's inner-strength coming to the rescue....doesn't really matter in the end. Do they blame others or do they step up and handle life's issues?posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 14:21
@avenger: I DO believe payback is a b*tch, but only towards the ones who have earned the payback. Not the innocent ones. That's why I said that. I apologize if that wasn't clear. My laugh followed the "agree with him" comment, because I had hinted at my disdain toward my son's views throughout my post and I do not tend to agree with him on anything (hence, the need for a 4 hour argument).posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 14:12
@Anonymous Dude: hahahaha! You'd probably be surprised to find out how many girls actually prefer it! (gives a whole new mental image when seeing a "hot chick", huh? BEWARE: it also gives a whole new mental image when seeing the "not-so-hot" ones too! LOL)posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 13:56
[quote][b]avenger[/b] - @racingbrat58f: And what's America's payback for Hiroshima and Nagasaki? Or how about America's treatment of the native Americans or African Americans? When you get into payback, almost every country in the world has things in the past to be ashamed of and karma would not be a good thing for them. [/quote]
You are absolutely correct. The US is not without sin. I even pointed this out in my 4 hour argument with my son. On here, I didn't say anything about what I think ANYONE should suffer because of their sins. I didn't say Japan SHOULD suffer. And, no, karma would not be a good thing - I didn't say it was. Thank you for pointing that out.
[quote]Your 21 yr old has a lot of maturing and experiencing to do because his ideas are so full of it and I suspect I know where he got those ridiculous ideas from. Does blaming the victims make you or your son feel better?
Really? Does that make you feel better to bash ME for telling a story about what my kid said? And, just to set the record straight, since you've decided to assume where my kid got those "ridiculous" ideas from. He was always the kid who had endless empathy for others, regardless of their nationality. That's how I raised him, thank you very much. He graduated high school a year early to join the Army at 17, was injured and came home a little over 2 years later with an entirely different point of view. I don't know what happened to change him, but he has a totally different set of opinions than when he enlisted.
I did not blame the victims in Japan. In fact, I said "I feel sadness for those that have been affected over there.." Unfortunately, innocent people are affected because of others. This is true everywhere we go. I know this, firsthand. What I said was - my son said "it was ironic" - and I agreed that it was, in fact, ironic.posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 13:49
@Willow: I couldn't agree more.....it's really pathetic when people become so "full of themselves" that they have no qualms about tearing down others and not caring who they trample on to get what they want. God should have a suggestion box...posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 13:36
@Bearhand: I don't care what a guy "has", speedos and banana hammocks should be banned. Neither one are flattering in the least. I assure you it has nothing to do with the way a guy looks or what "junk" is under the hood. Jockey shorts, boxer briefs, are MUCH better! (and your butt will look good! LOL)posted @ Wednesday, March 16, 2011 - 12:20
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