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5 truths about long-term relationships

April 4, 2012

Here are 5 truths about long-term committed relationships that will shatter the myths of couple-hood. This post is all about starting the discussion of whether or not you agree with these truths. 

Being in a relationship is an amazing time in anyone's life but there are just some truths that are hard to deny. If you're single reading this will make you feel great about not being in a relationship. If you're in a relationship you're most likely going to shake your head yes with each one. The grass is greener on the other side in each situation. 

This list was compiled by Julie Orlov who is an expert relationship coach. 

1. They get boring. At times you will be bored with your mate, your sex life, your home life, your life together. Sometimes you are simply not that into him and what’s more, sometimes he is not that into you. Sometimes this can last for minutes or hours; other times, it can last for months or years. 

2.They can hold you back—from your dreams, your potential, your goals. It can become easy to hide out in long-term relationships; forgoing your independence and drive to reach your potential and take risks in going for your dreams. Your partner may become stagnant as well. 

3. Your feelings will get hurt. You will be disappointed. You will be challenged. Relationships require vulnerability; intimacy demands it. Long-term committed relationships will always provide opportunities for you to deal with your insecurities, fears, and wounds. 

4.They get messy. People get sick, have smelly flatulence, become wrinkled, have mood swings, go through menopause, and become impotent. Being in a long-term committed relationship means you take the bad with the good. Some messes will be worse than others and sometimes you will need to clean them up all by yourself. 

5. You have to share all the time. You need to share your personal space, your home, and your resources and make decisions accordingly. Your ability to make independent decisions on how to flex and adapt your life to internal and external circumstances is affected by the need to take another person into consideration. You move in pairs or family units. This requires more cooperation and time to organize your efforts and implement decisions. 

These are not meant to be completely negative but these are relationship truths that one must deal with once your relationship becomes long term.

So do you agree with these? What would you add to the list? 

 

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